I've never asked for such photos because she hasn't even revealed herself to me in all these 9 months.

I've seen her naked, glimpses while undressing and some in the dark. But when there's light, there's not much time to admire her beauty as she turns away.

"I saw this picture and it made me feel sad. I don't really get to see you naked, but now Instagram does?"

She asked if it was wrong and I told her that she can do what she wants just as I can like or dislike things based on my opinion.

I let her know that I am not controlling her and that if she wants to do these things, she absolutely has the autonomy to do so. I also said that I am very conservative with my body and when I see people posting theirs freely, it is not attractive to me.

I then asked why she didn't send it to me, or any other photos, she told me she felt comfortable with her body and I can't remember what else she said because my emotions were too high and I just ran out if the room.

This isn't a singular event. I've been feeling left out, ignored, unworthy, and forgotten by other things in my life.

For instance, I rescued animals from the frontlines of war for 2 years and the organization that I volunteered for didn't even invite me to their awards ceremony. It's not that I feel that I deserved an award, it's that I felt like shit for not even being thought of after all the work I did while risking my life for their Instagram stories.

I left because of their emphasis on social media instead of actually caring about the animals being transported or rescued.

And there are many other events like this which have compounded my feelings of the ones I mentioned above.

I don't know, what do I do? I don't want to be last on the list of people who my partner shares things with.

And before this, she used to send me lots of things she found to me on Telegram, and then stopped and started to put them all on her stories.

Everything was great, and then she went to another country for 2.5 months while I watched her puppy for her. And that made me feel trapped. I couldn't go anywhere, or do anything, and the puppy got into heat during this time.

I don't feel well and I really need someone with a different perspective to help me deal with this but I'm now in the forest, and I feel safe here.

Hi, first time I’ve post in a long time, I’m quite upset so please excuse the spelling and grammar, also please hold on this takes a bit of explaining.

Some background info - I (25F) work in a relatively small team, I’m one of five technical assistants, and we support the other six members of the team with anything IT or Admin related. Things had been really great, best team I had worked in, got along great with everyone, I’ve been in this job role nearly two years now and I’m fully trained.

But a few months ago it got a little strange, our manager asked to be included into the technical assistant’s teams chat and to me it no longer felt safe to put anything in there when I ask for advice from the others concerning difficult situations. Then starts the constant question of what I’m doing today, even when I mention in a morning what I’m getting on with I’d be asked no less then 5 more times what I’m doing or being constantly @ed with different things. More times than they would admit but I was @ed more that six times within an hour, it was like constantly watching my computer popping with notifications. But I thought this wasn’t to bad at first, could deal with this change. Then when I started to be more stressed out from home life and having to work from home more to support my dad, since he lost the ability to walk and was having tests done for cancer - I told my manger this, who I thought I was quite close to, and she completely brushed it off saying that I need to be in the office more, that we need to create a time table of when I’m going to be in, and then telling me the days she expects me to be in the office. There was no compassion or empathy, when another member of the team who was going through near enough the exact same thing was receiving flowers and ‘don’t worry take as much time as you need’.

But then one of the other technical assistants started commenting little digs at me, they’re at the same level as myself. Just constant little things making me feel like I was pretty much doing everything wrong, and when my manager was away on holiday they would be constantly asking me what I was doing.

I have quite bad anxiety and depression so I know I have a tendency to overthink or look into things, but when I mentioned this to my friend (26F) who also happens to be a technical assistant in another teach she agreed that it was odd and sounded like micro management.

It got to me a few days ago, I got into the office and set my computer up, messaged the team what I was going to be doing that day - my manager then says to me ‘oh your challenge today is to get XX done by 2pm’, she had never done anything like that before and my not being socially smart at all didn’t think to even ask her why. I thought it was odd, so I messaged my friend and she said it was odd. Then before they went into an in-person meeting, therefore leaving thankfully alone in the office, my manager made some more of them comments like ‘oh get this many xx done before the end of the day’ and ‘tomorrow get this many xx done before you leave at lunchtime’. Again I told my friend and she agreed that it was micro-managing wanting to control what I was doing, when and how much. I made me feel like a child being assigned work by a teacher.

Then this morning, my goodness I started bawling my eyes out. My manger sends a teams update on what’s going on for the day every morning they are in - and they specifically put one of those ‘challenges’ in the update, but only for me, feeling like she was singling me out from the entire team saying that the task would be a good experience even though I am fully trained and know exactly what I’m doing in this job. I’m much more competent than I look I swear.

Again I messaged my friend and she’s now really angry for me, but also sending pick-up lines and flirting with me to cheer me up. I also asked my parents about this and they said that it nothing serious and I’m just being too sensitive and overreacting.

So I’m asking for y’all’s opinions, am I overreacting or is this a legitimate concern that I need to gain the confidence to bring up and confront?

GF got super weird tonight freaking out after I told her I was talking to my buddy while pooping. She wouldn’t accept my answers that I don’t think anything of it and have done this with bros for years and nobody gaf. Am I the only straight dude who talks to bros while shitting?

I just want to get this out of the way, in NO way shape or form am I trying to speak/put down trans people. And I hope this doesn’t offend anyone in the LGBTQ+ community, as it’s not my intention. This is my first time posting officially on reddit so I hope I am using the correct forum.

I was born female and have been a bit of a “tomboy” ever since I was little. I missed out on opportunities on simple things like learning how to do my makeup, so I am usually barefaced. Growing up kids my age (including close friends) would occasionally joke around about how I look like a “little boy”. I just assumed it was because I never put in as much effort into my looks as other women. Or maybe because I am more comfortable in jeans/shorts and a T-shirt. Not to mention, everyone who gets to know me ends up thinking I’m lesbian.

This is all stemming from a new friend recently I made. The friend told me that they originally thought I was a trans (male -> female). Which made me go down a long depressing spiral. This upset me because of how they told me. I recently started accepting and embracing my femininity so I was really put off guard when they mentioned that in a rather rude and hurtful manner. My bubble was popped. I felt my heart break. I felt like I finally got to a point in which I felt comfortable being “girly” but now I look at pictures of me and can’t help but constantly nitpick how masculine my features are.

I am not necessarily the prettiest fish in the sea as I don’t ever get any compliments. Sad, yes. It doesn’t help that I recently got a new boyfriend and am now worried if I’m not feminine enough for him. I know that sounds dumb to think about but it’s just the insecurities talking. I’m also debating on if I should even bring this topic up to him as I do not know how he would react.

I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid if I start using makeup I will become insecure and start relying on it to make me feel better about myself. I’m not sure how to work certain styles in with my more “androgynous” features since most tutorials seem to be from people who already look feminine without makeup. Am I overreacting?

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AITA for ending a friendship because she constantly brings up my dead son?

I (55f) lost my 22 year old son J. I’m in therapy and have no problem talking about my son at all, my daughter and I talk about him every day. I love it so much when other people talk about him. He was unforgettable, the stories I hear about him are hysterical, and will never get tired of hearing about him. He was my best friend.

Years ago my ex husband Ray started dating a woman named Michelle (now 56) She was nice to my son, so I liked her. They split up, we stayed in touch a while, but we all went separate ways.

Michelle hit me up years later after my son died. We started talking almost every day. It didn’t take long to realize she’s really hung up on the fact she never got married or had kids. She talks about that every single day and it became the subject of every conversation. Then she started with this whole thing about her being in the “same situation” as me with J’s death because “she’s still grieving the children she never had”. She started saying that constantly, things like “you know, it’s like you grieving J”.

A side note, she’s not infertile and she didn’t want to adopt. She got a large inheritance in her 30s and instead she quit her job, gave up her apartment and traveled for a couple of years. Now she has a minimum wage job and can barely pay rent. Bad choices and she’s bitter.

This isn’t the grief Olympics or anything, but the last conversation we had, she kept saying it until I finally snapped. I understand her sadness is real, but it’s NOT the same and I don’t appreciate her constantly comparing and only bringing him up for that purpose. It hurts. Being reminded of his death five times in a conversation got to be a bit much. I yelled that I’m not missing imaginary children. He was a living, breathing person and I can specifically name a million things that I miss about him. Told her she should try therapy and hung up, I blocked her and haven’t spoken to her since.

The last conversation started with her being mad at a different friend for using the word “pregnant” around her when she’s told her not to, because it’s a “trigger” for her. She expected me to agree that she was right and the friend was wrong and before I knew it she was justifying feeling that way by comparing again. It was a bit much.

I probably should’ve said something sooner but I knew it was a sensitive subject for her and was trying to be a supportive friend. Was I the asshole for losing my shit?

Hi all,

First of all for some context: I live on the same floor with a couple (both ~35) who have a kid (5-6F) and they seem to be pregnant again. They also have a cat. Over the years, they barely say hi and i think i heard them speak 2 times, times in which they were still a bit weird and unchiseled so to say. Pretty antisocial and slightly conflictual. They get along well with some other neighbors I am also getting along well, but that's about it.

A few days ago, when I got home their cat was at the door and so was she. We had a brief interaction (one of the 2 mentioned above) in which she told me that the cat escapes once in a while and she has to get it back, that one time it was at a different floor and so on. I also have a cat and I pay very much attention for her not to get out of the apartment when I open the door.

Yesterday evening, I got home with my partner and found the cat 3 floors below their apartment. We wanted to do good and get the cat to its house, so we lifted it and brought it with us. The cat was very scared (probably as a result of the environment). When we rang at their door, he answered and took the cat in saying just - "oh, you shouldn't have picked it up, he does not like it". No thank you, no nothing, and closing the door when i was wishing him a nice evening, without saying a word.

At home, we found out that my partner has large and deep scratches across his arms and that my tshirt is ruined (and it was quite expensive - I got it because I liked it, I usually don't get tshirts so expensive (~40 eur).

I asked the neighbor i'm getting along with to give me their phone number and explained the situation. She seemed to diminish it overall. We want to know if the cat is healthy, given the deep scratches that bled for quite some time and I would not mind another tshirt.

Of course, I feel like I'm overreacting more because of their attitude and lack of gratefulness, just closing the door in our faces basically. If they would have been more open overall and with community spirit, I would not have minded it that much, but i am furious now.

Am I overreacting?

I was shopping in a consignment store with my boyfriend, having what I thought was a wholesome and fun time. No one else was in the store except for us and the old lady working the front counter. My boyfriend called me to the back of the store ( which was hidden from the front counter) and told me he was hard asked if we could have sex….. it felt weird and unsafe. I know he was probably just trying to have a fun and spontaneous time but it just didn’t feel like the right moment. He then proceeded to ask if I could at least suck his dick. I regrettedly admit that I did do it but only for maybe a second and then I told him it felt too unsafe. He told me I “owe him when we get home”…. We then left the store to go home. When we got in his car, his phone immediately connected. On the Bluetooth speaker was porn…he tried to lie and say it was a video that was sent in his friend gc. I forced him to show me his phone and he admitted that he lied and he was watching porn in the thrift store. Which ig is why he wanted to have sex… when I looked at his safari, there was a whole private tab FULL of all different porn links that he must reference back to. I felt betrayed, almost like I had been cheated on. It wasn’t just the fact that he clearly watches a lot of porn. It was the fact that he had to do it in the same vicinity as me, WHILE I thought we were having a wholesome time at an antique store. It felt like he didn’t respect me at all. Watching naked videos of girls while I’m a few feet away?? He continued on to say that he got addicted to watching it while we were long distance at college and that he would “watch it before he went out to the bars so that he didn’t feel the need to flirt or do anything with girls”…I again felt even more betrayed. Like he had needed porn in order to be faithful to me? It all felt wrong. I broke up with him that day. We had a talk a week later to possibly work things out. He came to the talk very high and didn’t take the talk seriously at all, meanwhile I was crying. It was like he didn’t think I was actually going to be officially done with him. Not only was that a tell tail sign that I needed to be officially done. But we also were having problems for the last year of our relationship, if not the whole time. Our trust was never stable with one another. And we constantly fought about people of the opposite sex. But we also had so many good moments and I love and miss him so much, despite what he’s done to hurt me. it’s so hard to know if it’s worth to keep fighting for. I don’t know if I’m being over dramatic or not to have broken up with him. Someone please let me know. I’m struggling with whether I made the right decision and should try again with him or not. If you read this much, THANK YOU SM

I am a woman and I met a guy in a FB group for a common interest. We interacted on some posts relating to current events in our interest and had some good conversation. I saw he was in a city where I may be moving and decided to ask if I could message him.

We DMd and he introduced himself by telling me he liked a book in my profile. The book is kind of a sci fi thriller that features a cult, a brain virus, spies, and virtual reality. And we started chatting over a couple days.

At one point in the conversation I said something about an essay I read on psychology and economic theory. And he said something dismissive that made me think he didn’t know anything about the source material. When I asked him about it he said he wanted to change the subject, because he doesn’t like talking about “psychology and society.”

I asked him if he disagreed with my opinion and he said no, but he just told me he doesn’t like talking about psychology and society, and I’m disrespecting him by continuing to press the subject. I told him I was tired and needed to get to bed anyway.

But thinking about this later I’m kinda pissed. It seems like if he was flirting with me (and he was) and his pickup line was to mention this book that is very much a book focused on psychology and society, it is weird to unilaterally say those (very broad) topics are off limits.

This feels gross to me. Am I overreacting?

I’m falling out of love for my boyfriend, Im so numb and just want to end it,

I’m not happy with him, he gives me no joy at the moment, and i’m getting tired of constantly asking him to stop lying, white lies any lie because i’m so traumatised with big liars in the past.

We’re so different. too different we’re just not meant to be together.

I was looking for true love after being heartbroken and he hit me up and we connected, I then started to do everything that i’d do for my ex but better I give him large amounts of money, attention, love, loyalty and everything I’d want for myself.

But he lied about his life and age and It broke my trust completely, nowadays I get so mad at even the smallest lies, and we argue all the time.

Only hard thing is he threatens to commit suicide when i try to, and now im stuck in this toxic relationship. I know he’s only hanging on me because i provide for him and gave him love he’s never experienced. but i’m getting tired.

Is there anyway to fix this? I know he loves me, he has a tattoo of my name on his back and he takes care of our puppy… maybe he’s just too immature.

I feel sorry for myself.

My husband and I moved to a new city to get a fresh start. Unfortunately he lost his job and the job market in our area is horrible…we’ve been unemployed for 6 months and are quickly running out of money. I have chronic pain and need insurance which we have lost. It’s really taking a toll on my health. My husband’s old boss called him and let him know he can come back to the same position, with a higher salary, and they will pay for relocation. But, my husband was incredibly in appropriate with his boss- I believe they slept together but have no actual proof. My husband denies sleeping with her but they were always out late at night drunk together…I know in my heart something fishy was going on. His boss likes to party so my husband would go out drinking with his team every weekend, to the point he would not come home until 3am, turn off his phone so I can’t reach him, and be so drunk he peed in random places in the house; like on the dog for example. I know this sounds terrible, and it is. We were on the verge of divorce when we started couples therapy and it was suggested we find a way to have a fresh start in our marriage. My husband got help for the alcoholism and we moved away.

I have forgiven my husband but I am incredibly anxious about him taking this job again, I’m so worried he’ll be back to his old self and sabotage our marriage. You have no idea how hurt I was to see the person I love disrespect himself and our marriage like that. He says that I am overreacting and he has grown as a person in the last 2 years…he says we need the money and this is our only hope. So am I overreacting? Should I take a chance ?

Backstory:

I (36M) and my wife (34F) have been married for 15 years. Early in our marriage, my wife learned that she would always have irregular cycles, that her uterus is "tilted", and that pregnancy could be complicated or impossible altogether. We pretty much accepted that pregnancy wouldn't happen unless we made an earnest effort and have even considered adopting if that's the case.

This year has been tough. We had some financial issues earlier in the year and then lost our jobs three months ago. We're back to work but my wife noted she'd missed her period by over four months and had been feeling some weird lower abdominal pains. Thinking we're crazy, we buy a few pregnancy tests. Not one, not two, but four. All four are positive. She's currently scheduled to see an OB next week.

Despite the improbable odds of my wife being pregnant, we're not sure if we're staying the course. We're excited but also terrified. We find relief in knowing it's possible and recognize her age complicates matters in the future but our life is in absolute shambles. We don't want to bring a child into this. But we don't even know with 100% certainty yet that she is pregnant and what our options are. Ultimately, it's her choice and I've backed her the entire way.

Fast forward to the last few days.

We talked to my mother about it. Immediately, she is in grandmother mode. Talking about all the baby clothes she's been buying and stashing away, reminding us of the random stuff she's given us over the years. We explained to her that we're not sure what we're doing and her response was to berate us for even considering abortion. That's fine. Her opinion.

What I'm pissed about is today, she told my aunt and uncle, my grandparents, and who knows who else that my wife may be pregnant and also hinted that we may not go through with the pregnancy. We feel violated, betrayed, and furious. We feel as though it's our right to determine who we tell and that she is out of line for telling family members about the potential pregnancy as a way to persuade us to "do the right thing".

I put together a hailstorm of strong words and reprimands in response to her informing me of what she had done and she has since taken to texting my wife (presumably family too) and saying I'm an asshole, ungrateful, etc. My wife, of course, has ignored her. But...

Am I (we) overreacting?

I went to my annual appt today the Dr was a male maybe 60yrs old. He was asking me regular screening questions about my health, then he starts to ask about my “sex life” with my husband, at first it seemed normal “does it hurt, do you have any concerns” then he starts smiling and leans in a bit more (I’m sitting on a chair across the room and he’s leaning on the exam table/bed) he asks me “ so since you live with your spouse you guys do the hanky panky regularly huh? I nervous laughed and said yea I guess so then he proceeded to ask if I get well lubricated every time we do it? That’s when I started to feel weird I have never had a provider ask me that! Then comes time for my pap and breast exam and while he was doing the breast exam he felt around the breast like normal then he grabbed my nipple and wiggled it and squeezed it for a good 3 seconds. I felt very uncomfortable at that moment and I kinda froze so I didn’t say anything. Am I over reacting or does it sound like inappropriate behavior?

Edit: There was a medical assistant present during the exam and she seemed just as confused and uncomfortable as I did!! Yes I reported to the medical board already I wasn’t able to contact the clinic because it was his own practice. For those of you doubting that this is real I really wish it wasn’t either but unfortunately these things actually do happen to real people. Thank you to everyone who has sent supportive comments and advice it’s really appreciated

We have been living for 4 years together and he was always into gaming and smoking weed but after we married he increased the time spent to both of these and when I try to say something about these he gets super angry. We just get into a mortgage. I sleep alone he comes 3-4 hours later than me to the bed. When he wakes up he starts working, during lunch time we walk and after work he starts playing, drinking and smoking weed. I spend most of my time alone. He doesn’t listen 80% of what I am speaking. Cuddling dropped off very sharply and I started to feel like all the good attitude was until marriage or is it just a process and he will be like he used to be or am I just too dramatic?

UPDATE: I brought it up to her and she acknowledged my concerns. She said she didn’t delete anything and then proceeded to open up her messenger to show me(The messages that were in question were on Facebook). Unsurprisingly to me they weren’t there. Just the last couple messages. She seemed surprised and told me she hadn’t deleted them. It turned out that she had deleted and reinstalled messenger on her phone because it was acting glitchy. It turns out when she logged back in, it didn’t sync a lot of her messages. When we found this out, she synced them up and showed me that there was nothing to worry about. Her responses to him were simple responses like “oh weird” or “hope things are good with you” and was very short. I felt like an idiot and that I over reacted, however she assured me I didn’t, and she’s glad I brought it up to her. I appreciate all the comments and feedback! Thanks guys!

In need of some advice.

I kept having dreams within the last two weeks that my boyfriend was cheating on me. My curiosity got the best of me and I looked through his phone… I saw he has an onlyfans account. I also noticed happy ending massage & massage full service searches online / yelp he was logged into rub maps account that was created 5 months ago…..I haven’t talked to him about it yet as I’ve been trying to process my thoughts and feelings….. I don’t know how to bring it up to him?? I feel guilty for looking through his phone (the last time I did that was years ago) but I also feel hurt/ betrayed/ angry/ and embarrassed.

Backstory: My partner and I have been together for 10 years, moved in 7 years ago, and have a 14 month old child who was planned. I trust him, he hasn’t given me any reason not to trust him. He’s my first everything, we started off a little rocky I was immature and would get jealous easily. By that I mean we both had instagram when we started dating but I noticed him going into girls profiles and liking multiple pictures and all once. I told him I don’t like him doing that if this is going to work out he needs to delete his instagram account. So he did and I deleted mine as well to make it fair. That was only months into our relationship(not an ultimatum I’d give him now ) we’ve overcome that part of our relationship and we both have social media. We still argue / have disagreements but nothing we can’t move past of. Over the past 8-9 year we’ve enjoyed our relationship traveled a lot took time to date each other and had a healthy active sex life. After I had the baby I was stressed / sad my baby wouldn’t latch to me so I started pumping. I didn’t want him around me in a physical way so I wouldn’t initiate sex like before we would only have sex once every few weeks if he initiated it. my nipples were always sore, my sex drive was very low… our main priority was taking care of our baby…. I’ve stopped pumping about a 1.5 months now and I’m starting to feel more like myself again, my sex drive is going up again we been intimate a lot more recently.

I started typing this yesterday and i didn’t get a chance to post it. Since then I talked to him about it.

Update: I asked him if he had a OF account he didn’t answer my question, then I proceeded to ask him if he’s cheated on me he said no they I asked him if hes gone to a full service massage he said no last question I asked if he searched up full service massage locations he said no. I told him I looked through his phone and I know he’s lying because I saw the searches. He got really upset at me for looking through his phone and told me we are done because I don’t trust him and I need to move out. I asked him for an explanation of why he would search that and what were his intentions if he didn’t do anything. He did not want to respond he repeated that we are done and I need to move out because I don’t trust him after all this time…… he managed to tell he was just curious because he’s heard happy ending massage and he looked it up and that’s all it was. Again now im hurt that it is so easy for him to end things. Am I at fault for this? Should I have not looked through his phone?

My weirdass family calls people ugly endearingly. I have a 3 month old and while I know she doesn’t know what they’re saying, I just don’t want them to normalize it. I asked them to not say that to her and I don’t see what’s so difficult about it. They will tickle her and when she giggles or something, they’ll say “awww ur so ugly!!” I was FaceTiming my sister and she calls my daughter “stink” and I hate that too. But anyways, she says let me see stink and immediately I get annoyed but show her my daughter and my daughter starts giggling and ofc she says you’re so ugly..again..multiple times so I said I told you to stop saying that to her, why do I have to keep reminding you. She says she doesn’t mean it like that and she knows that I know she’s joking but I said still, I don’t like it so stop then she hangs up. I’m about ready to go into my family group chat and say something to everyone just to put a stop to this completely. AIO?

Being a little bit intentionally vague here. My daughter plays a team sport at the middle school level. During tryouts, a pair of shoes were stolen from the locker room. The coaches seem to think they know who did it.

However, because no one has returned the shoes or confessed, the teams (both varsity and JV) are being punished collectively. They’ve had to not practice their actual sports but just do laps and sprints all practice. I’m not a fan of this one, but not too worked up about that.

The school police officer has come to talk to the team. The coaches also told the girls they will forfeit all their games until the guilty party comes forward. So yesterday they forfeited their first match and the girls had to come to practice and sit silently for the 90 minute practice. They weren’t allowed to even look at each other.

My wife and I feel like this has gone beyond reasonable at this point and crossed into bullying territory. 30+ innocent girls (adolescent girls at that) are being punished for one person’s actions. And by the way, multiple parents have offered to pay to replace the shoes but the coaches say nope.

When my wife complained, the coach basically brushed her off and said no big deal.

So fellow redditors, are we overreacting?

Me and my bf (both mid-20s) have been together for roughly a year. Prior to us he was in a 4 year relationship with his ex (same age) and they lived together. They split up and she moved out, shortly after we started seeing each other. He said that the break up was long overdue etc. and was glad it happened even though it was difficult.

Flash forward to the start of this summer, we went away together for the first time. I got some really good pics of us, where we went and the food. I wanted to dump it on insta and asked if I could tag him. He said no bc his ex might see (and therefore know he had a new gf). It didn’t sit right with me but I didn’t push it and I didn’t post anything at all. He also has been cagey about me going to bars etc. in his hometown in case she/her friends might see.

I’d decided to give him time, idk what’s going on in his mind and I didn’t want to push what seemed like small things.

We went away together again and out of the blue she rang him. He didn’t pick up. I told him he should, given that they hadn’t spoken since pretty much the breakup and this is so out of the blue, something might be wrong, he should check if she’s ok. He went away and called her. Later I asked him about it and he said she was drunk but just asking how things were and how he was etc. I didn’t really think much of it.

The next day I stalked her insta and found she’d posted a pic of her in a bikini 2 days before (first post in 6 months) and he’d liked it. Immediately my mind went to “he’s liked it, giving her an in, that’s why she rang”. So I confronted him about it, asked him not to do it in future bc it’s disrespectful to me and told him he needs to tell her he has a gf. I think that’s fair for both of our sakes, I’m more secure in the relationship and she isn’t wasting any time.

He took a very long time to think about it and wouldn’t talk to me about it for about a week. Eventually I asked him if he was going to tell her, he said no so I broke up with him. He then spent a long time stating it was because she had really bad mental health and he was afraid she would do something if he told her. I pointed out it had been a year and a half since the break up and I also have bad mental health and it’s negatively affecting me. For me he was putting his exes hypothetical feelings above my actual ones. It was the anniversary of her mothers death that week so he agreed to tell her, but just not at what might be a difficult time for her.

Flash forward again, he keeps putting it off. It’s obviously really getting to me and I told him as such and he then brings the “date” forward but it’s still in the future. Eventually I just said why not today? What is stopping you? He said he couldn’t today bc he’s “stressed at work”. We’re supposed to be at my grandparents this weekend so I said why not then? He said “weird vibes”. I’ve told him these are excuses, he literally just needs to tell her. He said he was too busy to argue about it rn and hasn’t replied since.

As far as I know she’s texted him once since that phone call and is in touch with his mother, the reason being her mums death anniversary and they were close ig.

Am I overreacting to him not telling her?

I (23F) have been dating a new guy (30M) for just over two months. We met on Tinder and after the absolute trash on the dating scene I've been through over the last few years, I've been counting my lucky stars to find him. He's confident, protective, emotionally open. Completely my type physically (blond, blue-eyed, bearded, athletic build) and has a British accent, which is superficial but I find hot. He's even politically liberal, which said to me that his values are good.

The relationship has gone really well so far. We had great conversations by text. He then took me to a nice restaurant for our first date, which was a pleasant surprise, and we had really good chemistry. I broke my rule of waiting a month to sleep with a guy, and it was really good. The day after he said he doesn't really believe in dating multiple people at once and asked to make it exclusive. I said yes, obviously, and played it cool on the phone but ran around screaming with my roommate afterwards lol. We've been seeing each other two or three times a week, my friends all like him and I was planning on him meeting my family this weekend.

Anyway, we were hanging out at my apartment yesterday and I asked him about his birthday. I'm kinda into astrology and I've started fantasizing about our lives together, so wanted to check our compatibility. I asked him the day and the time, and he raised his eyebrows and asked why, so I said I just wanted to check what our birth charts would say about us. He then asked me if I really believed in "that stuff", and I said yes. He then went quiet for a bit and said "I don't think this is going to work out". He then started putting on his shirt to leave. I can't really remember what I said next, but I started panicking. I said we didn't need to do it and we could forget about it but he kept saying that we weren't a good match. It just all seemed so stupid for me and I kept asking him why it mattered so much. He said that there was "too much unreason in this country and I don't need more in my life". He then just left and isn't picking up his phone since.

I'm still in a state of shock tbh. I've been in breaking out in tears randomly today and had to leave work early. It just seems to me a crazy overreaction. I said I didn't expect him to care about horoscopes, it was just something I enjoyed but he said it spoke to how I thought about things and my critical thinking, which upset me. I don't know what to do next. Am I overreacting?

I (34f) have been married to my husband (39m) for 9 years. We have 3 kids together (7, 4, 18 months) and we both work full time. He does make double my salary though.

I do everything for our house and 3 kids. I wake up every day before 4am to work out and shower, then pack lunches for everyone in our house (spouse included), make breakfast for everyone, get all 3 kids up and ready, and do drop off for all 3. Most mornings, my husband will not wake up to help. If he does, he sees us for 3-5 minutes but won’t help.

I also do all the pick ups for the kids after school, do all of the laundry and cleaning for the entire family, cook all of the meals, get all of the groceries and run all of the errands.

My husband doesn’t understand why I am so frustrated. He keeps asking me to do more - he wants me to wake him up every morning even though he has an alarm clock. He wants me to fill up his water bottles for work. I just feel like I am already doing so much that adding more on my plate will make everything collapse and I will fall apart.

When he gets home from work, he sits on the couch and watches TV for hours while I play with our kids, cook dinner, and do bath and bedtime solo for all three every single night.

Am I overreacting for being so frustrated? I love my kids and I am not upset to be with them or help them. I just need some help, or at the bare minimum, appreciation.

Update - I have asked for help in the past. We have had calm conversations and conversations that get heated. He has promised to help out more but will either oversleep and not help, or will help for a day or two then stop. He does fold his own laundry now and put that away 75% of the time which is helpful, and will sometimes unload the dishwasher. But for the most part it falls on deaf ears.

Saturday my bf of 5.5years turned on his PC and I saw a nude picture, he promised to me it was from years ago off of a porn website. I did tell him it makes me feel uncomfortable with him having photos saved to his pc of women, so I asked for him to delete it, to which his response was “theres no way I can find that its so deeply hidden in my computer it would take me hours to find it.” THIS is super sketchy to me because wouldn’t you save those photos to be able to quickly go back and jerk to them and why save them? why not just hop on PH? So this led me to go through his phone.. I just knew that picture was of someone he either knew or an OF girl. He had his OF signed in on his safari and I saw he was subscribed to my COUSIN!! My cousin posts twerking vids on tiktok and he said her OF was purely a scam and it was only the vids she posted on Tiktok, and he said he did not see any of her naked body. He swears he never jerked off to her but im so heartbroken and disgusted… I broke things off with him… This was the man I wanted to marry.. we are working on building a house together, is this forgivable? Im attaching two photos here they are both proof of him subscribing to my cousin. He said he only subbed once (for three months) and it autorenewed… for another three months. the dated arent exactly 3 months apart? Is he lying to me?

I would like to add context that I was always up before her on Saturdays buying her coffee. Most dates we went on I paid for and it was normally a weekly occurrence as she was busy being a single mother. Spontaneous flowers happened maybe once a month and sometimes to her work.

My (29F) bf (33M) came home yesterday as I was getting ready for work. He hugged me and said “hey hormones.” I asked him to please not call me names and kissed him goodbye. I texted him about something random, like nothing happened, while at work and he ignored me. He was still mad at me when I got home that afternoon and wouldn’t really speak to me. This is the text convo that ensued later that evening

He has done this many times before, but usually calls me “crazy,” “sensitive,” “moody,” or some other derogatory term but then pretends it’s a joke. I’ve asked him to stop many times and he never does. Instead he always turns it back on me and says I need to learn to take a joke. It’s also important to note that I never raise my voice at him and just ask that he stop this, but he always accuses me of yelling at him or having a dramatic reaction. Whenever we fight, he’s the one that yells and I maintain an even tone to not antagonize him further. Am I overreacting?

For context: we live together but he is currently on night shifts while I work during the day. We overlap at home for about 10 minutes in the morning and evening, which is why this convo happened over text